2019: The year of connection
As the end of 2018 approaches, Family lawyer Marie decided to stop for a second and take stock.
This year has been one of personal growth and education. I began my metamorphosis in February, during a particularly nasty bout of the flu. Being, bed bound and bored gave me a chance to reflect. As my temperature subsided, I made a very conscious decision that this would be a year of learning. I am a curious cat by nature and I decided I wanted to know more about people, the issues they face and how they keep on going. I find the condition of ‘being human’ most fascinating, which is just as well, as my job is people. People matter.
I switched off the usual drivel on the mainstream radio and turned on informative and topical podcasts (my favourite, by far, being ‘The Guilty Feminist’, which discusses a variety of issues such as poverty, gender equality and mental health). I also attended a book signing held by the captivating wordsmith that is Caitlin Moran. She is a whirlwind of energy and tackles ‘human issues’ with wit, sincerity and passion.
Through reading and listening to stories on the condition of ‘being human’ I came to the realisation that although individual, most of the struggles we encounter are the same. Love. Separation. Divorce. Arguments about children. Work. Financial worries. Family illness. Death of a loved one. We are all human and all connected by many of those common experiences.
That is why, when life gets tough, it is important to form connections with others who can help, support and advise. Whether it’s a friend offering a shoulder to cry on (and a bottle of wine/your comfort food of choice), a perceptive therapist, an energetic personal trainer, an astute financial advisor, a practical lawyer. No one individual has all the answers. Each has their own skills and knowledge. Connections matter.
I specialise in family law and consequently, I often meet people when they are at their lowest ebb. The strain of divorce or separation can cause enormous stress, which can, in turn, affect long term health and happiness. Sadly, children of the family can also suffer in the cross fire.
I hope that I can make a difference in my role as a family lawyer, by helping separating couples to achieve a ‘good divorce’, that is, one that focuses on achieving a peaceful and positive outcome. One that promotes the best interests of the children at all times. Life is too short to waste on acrimony.
Wishing you all a connected, positive and prosperous 2019. Happy New Year.